turned tables

no, not turn tables (as in dj as in records as in spinning), turned tables. when did the tables turn?



sometime in the past couple years, i noticed a strange shift in the endings to my relationships. maybe it was always this way and the most recent evidence brought it to light or maybe... maybe i have no idea.



what i do know is that i've had all of these weird break-ups/ non-break-ups lately (lately as in the past couple years). (yep, keeping it real here, keeping it a real dating blog). wherein these guys i'm dating or have been out on one date with or who i've never even dated at all (maybe just shared an email or a phone call or something) totally freak out on me when i tell them i'm just not that into them.



now, i've not read "he's just not that into you" although i hear there's a movie version coming out soon - i'll probably see that and let you know, but i do know that if i really think about it, i've never been caught off guard or thought that something was going on in a relationship that wasn't. meaning that even if i didn't want to see it at the time, there were always signs that he was over me or not into me and believe me, i'm good at giving those same signs. um, like when i maybe don't return your call/email/text for days on end when i had previously or when i'm suddenly cancelling plans or unavailable at previously available times? that's not b/c i suddenly decided to play a mean game of hard to get, it's b/c i've decided that i'm not that into you. and while i will always give you the full on, honest i'm just not that into you break-up/ non-break-up, please stop pretending that either a) you had no idea this was coming or b) that you were never into me either. (i realize some of you may argue that i'm not so good at the full-on, honest break-up as evidenced by my frequent use of email as god's gift to daters, but i do eventually end all things that need to be ended and i'm not usually too subtle about it either).



here's the thing: i'm a 30-something who has dated one or two people in my life so i'm pretty good at the dating game and picking up on the clues (read: good at the dating game as in i've been on a lot of dates. see all previous posts for evidence on how i'm maybe not so good at the actual dating stuff) so i guess i just don't get how any one person could be caught so off guard by the end to a relationship that never happened?

innnernets? discuss.

(Author's note: i've been sick and not left my home for two days while my head nearly exploded with goop. i'm sure when i orginally started this post, i had much more to say on the subject matter but then i went and saw SATC the movie and got all carrie on you plus i have this other post that i really want to write. and so, in conclusion, you get what you get, okay? don't say i never write here anymore, k? - end rant/ author's note)